Glad things are going so smoothly for you right now! And don't underestimate the cumulative power of those "could have gotten pissy, but didn't" moments...just think of how those added up and helped poisen our M's in the past!!
On the topic of "how do we ensure this doesn't happen again"...I've been having some questions myself.
It seems to me that right now, CJ is pretty fulfilled. He's right into his course, excited, pumped, things are pretty "smooth" with us...I've maintained for the large part my 180's and changes.
My fear is that if HE doesn't meet more of MY needs (Sex, affection, compliments, organization, getting things done etc) I might grow resentful again and backslide.
Honestly, when I look at it...MANY of my previously horrid behaviours were unconcsiously related to him not meeting some of my basic needs. I got angry and sarcastic and controlling in many instances because of his procrastination, ignoring me etc.
HE sees it as going only one way: Shiny's nastiness drove him away....I see it as circular...our negatives fed off each other.
I guess I will just have to carefully voice my feelings before things go to far down that path!!
