Quoting sage:
I can easily think of a dozen things that I wish that he had been willing to do that would have shown me -- some large, some small -- that he understood my need to feel safe.



Responding to my own thought...

I have worked on my hope/expectation/whatever that h respond to me in "a particular way"....

I realize that this is a cheeseless tunnel.
That h is doing really wonderful things every day for me
That h may no KNOW what it is that I need and/or
That h may not be able to give me what I think I need
That dropping the rope on this and DB'ing with it is the recommended course of action!

Sage


Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.