Mmmm..I love key lime pie. May I have a virtual piece?
Originally Posted By: JCJ
Also randomly when I was out with my friends the other week I must have arranged, while drunk, for them all to come round this Sunday and do my garden. I have no real memory of this but apparently I organised a BBQ and everything so I am now doing that on Sunday which should be fun.
A BBQ you can't remember-ha! Will definitely be fun though, and something to look forward to.
I'm really glad you're going to get to see your H on Saturday. I completely agree with taking some time off from thinking about him. He is all about HIM, so you be all about YOU and all the wonderful things about you. Keep thinking about all you have going for you, and how strong you have become over this last year. Strong enough to not expect or need your H to be any certain way when he comes over.
You could even try something I've been reading about to combat negative thought patterns:
Write down some of your negative thoughts, like "H is always so rude about texting me, thoughtless, etc." and then offer a rational explanation to counter them, similar to what Twin Dad posted to you. You're countering an irrational thought with what a rational observer would say (I'm not calling you irrational, it's just we all have these all-or-nothing, black and white thoughts that hurt us and aren't true--H is not always rude or thoughtless, he is sometimes, and only moreso lately because he is dealing with his own issues--it's not towards you).
Of course, since you're not going to be thinking about H, you can do this with negative thoughts that you have about yourself, too, and offer a rational argument to each of them. This exercise, if you're consistant at doing it 15 min at day, eventually is supposed to interrupt these thoughts, which are what cause us to experience negative emotions, low self-esteem, etc.
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
