Quote: I guess it comes down to figuring out how to open myself up completely to my m. and to him (a sticking point in the past) while knowing in my heart that nothing is certain (in terms of longevity) and that not only ARE we both free to leave ...well, it's that freedom that might make it more palatable to stay.
To open up means to allow yourself to be vulnerable. That takes a tremendous amount of courage coming from a place that you have. By understanding that nothing is certain takes even more courage.
I belive, IMHO, that my W was not able to do this after she discovered my infeidelity and even after she forgave me at retrouvaille. Her opening up always depended on a concrete sign that I would always be faithful or that we would be together forever, and as we all know nothing in this world is guaranteed.
The fact that you believe that only you are responsible for you own happeiness will empower you to be vulnerable and ultimately open up.
