I can relate to a lot of what you address here, re: controlling wife, fleeing husband.
Brought to mind something my husband said to me about how things will be great in the begining, but it'd probably take him another 7 years to walk again. This was in response to my expressing a fear that if I did one thing wrong he'd walk. So, his response is positive in that I can stop worrying that one thing will set him off. However, it does indicate his tendancy to let things build up.
It's a slippery slope. Maybe it's just a matter of staying in touch with the bb. Or maybe re-reading Michele's books once a year.
I don't know...but if you figure out how to stay out of the rat hole, let me know!
