W then opined about how she wished I could have been reasonable with the so-called mediator she chose (I kept my mouth shut), and that because of that ( because I was just so unreasonable) all these additional costs for these lawyers were going to prove very costly to us (her) -- and that it was going to cost our S's financially as well, sadly, money that could have gone to them instead.
Sorry you still feel bad, NC!!! Hope you feel better soon!
One thing I think you might want to do (or not) but it has worked for me, is to maybe agree with your W sometimes when she actually says something you can agree with. Obviously you can't agree with everything she says (unless you're crazy too) but like when she said about the financial costs something like You're right or I agree, divorce is expensive and not going to be good for the kids" or something like that and it's a little bit like the "truth darts" Puppy talks about maybe? I find agreeing with the crazy people makes them happy, or at least my H as happy as he can be anyway. Have you tried that yet? Karen
