In the beginning my h would say your bed, your room. It would hurt me but I didn't say anything. Later on my h would get upset when I said my bed, my house, etc. Like you I tried not to say it like that. It's like they distance themselved from all of their previous lives. Once they start coming out of it then they know it's "ours." Each person is different. Hasn't your h made many strides towards home? Just hang in there.
