Oh, it all makes sense. Yes, the old R is dead and good riddance.
Here is what I decided. If in February when we go to Hawaii for her cousin's wedding I haven't seen any substantive changes on her part and movement toward building a wonderful new relationship, then, I will close the door 99% on this marriage and work with W to divorce. Once divorced, until one of us is in a committed long term relationship, I will be open to the possibility of building a new relationship together. I will say that I don't believe that my wife is saying bad things about me to friends and relatives. I would think that if you and your wife got back together, she can inform the friends that you are in fact not an alien and that she was mistaken.
For my part, I've gone from a place where I didn't believe that I had other options to a place where there is an abundance of options available to me whenever I want. Because I'm still married and DB, I am very careful about what I do and how far I will push things.
It makes perfect sense.
Dan
You know, I have allready made that decision, I know she tells everyone that everything is my fault. So be it, i accepted responsibility in the email i sent, that was never acknowledged , so be it. I am quite happy with closing the door on her, she still maintains that all i like to do is party etc etc, even though i haven't done so in months. WTF is wrong with her thinking I am still like that, she knows for a fact I am not.. oh well.
I am not sure how far I will push things, but she has laid all the ground work for it to go the way it has. She even believes the only reason we are civil towards each other is because of her, it's comical.
