Long Walk Home on the Lake Erie Shore

[Neilh23]

Dang Puppy..that was a swift kick in the arse if i've ever seen one....cirpes.

yes, i'm back earlier than expect from my self imposed exile. but i would like some help to see if my thought process is on the right track here.....

My W is:
confused
tired
happy
confident
sad
angry
scared
unsure
insecure
and any other emotion all rolled into one package right now. SHe's not sure what hte right path is right now. She needs time and space to figure it out.

she liked what she saw from the new and improved Neil. (we'll assume that's true) It confused her even more. Creates conflict in her mind. Problems.

Here I am. I want to solve her problems. Tell her it's ok. We can work this out. It's all going to be ok.

But I can't do that because i would be taking control of HER all over again and not letting her figure her stuff out.

So what can i do?

Work on Neil.
Give her space and time.
Be there if she needs me.
Stay positive.
DOn't talk about the R (which, i really haven't...swear)
Focus on the Kids.

There's really not anything else is there? That's really what i'm looking for....anything else that I, Neil, can do. I'll tell you what...that's damn frustrating for me...because i'm a DAM...and i like to fix things for other people....LOL




PS....i'll be in later to check on everyone...i owe lots of people!!!