I thought I would hop over here to pick up on some of your threads for a change. It sounds like your R has come a long way. It saddends me a bit to think that if I would have just kept initiating and giving my W some more reassurance, we could be where you guys are today.
A lot of the things you are posting about sound like what we went through 6 years ago after we attended retrouvaille.(BTW have you considered that). It may just cement what you have going right now? So I just want to say, Take good care of what you and your H have going right now. Our M's can be so fragile, especially after infidelity, that if we take them for granted for even a second, we run the risk of losing them forever.
I still have hope for us tho. Even tho W is going full steam ahead with D. I was able to get her to the local Pub for a drink tonight with very minimal R or D talk initiated by her of course. She was feeling bored so I took a chance and asked her out. OOPS, Sorry to hog your thread.
God Bless what you two have. Cherish and nurture it (as I'm sure you will).
