Neil Puppy is right, I think. I just got done posting on my thread and as I went back and read it over, I realized the things I listed off as negatives, really are positives.....when I have these down days and get to feeling sorry for myself, I have a tendency to come on here and just make it worse.....looking for that one magic answer...the "pill" to make it all go away.
For me...and I think you too, from catching up on your thread....I know exactly what I have done the last 5 months that works, and I know exactly what I have to do to get myself through this. I also do a pretty darn good job and figuring out what makes my wife happy, and keeps her on an even keel.
What gets in the way?....same old chit, man....emotions, impatience....pride....looking to her to make me happy.