Duh! That's my chemo brain! son in law didn't even occur to me. All I could "see" was sister in law.
He does pretty much consider it the H's fault. Which is very sad to me. I have always liked the H. He is a very bright guy and we have always thought alike on various issues. My H always liked him very much too. Until the EA started and the book smart, but ditzy blonde W started whining about how badly her H was treating her and the kids. It all happened at a time that my H was hurting emotionally. She jumped in and took advantage and he lapped it up like a starving dog. lol
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I am so glad that a couple of my "Girls" are pretty much home and free (you and Pisces). I can't tell you how good it feels to see some of my friends succeed at this.
It does feel good. Althought I am still a bit nervous about it all. The nightmare is still a bit fresh if you know what I mean.
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My thought going in was I wanted a better R than ever before. I think I am getting there and I think you and Pisces are as well.
One of the things that I kept begging my H was that we could work things out and our R could be better than before. He was so dead set against that. I cound not see at that time that I just had to quietly do it by myself. I think one of the most important truths with DB is that you can do it alone and you don't need the buy in of your S.
Everyone kept telling me that I could not save my M unless my H "got help." No one (prior to finding DB) told me I could work change all on my own.
What a wonderful discovery. I am very happy, and so happy to read of your good as well.
I will go back and read some of my old stuff. I know that it will truly help me appreciate how far H and I have come.
Most of us are about as happy as we make up our minds to be.
