You asked "don't women understand how this puts men between a rock and a hard place?" I wanted to just tell you...no, they don't understand.
It is so clear to me now in hindsight, but NO at the time my kids were under age 14 I did not know that they were not my entire world. No one could have told me otherwise and if they had tried, I would have scoffed at them.
I'm sorry you've hit a speed bump. I know it will turn itself around. I wish there was a way to get the message through to women about how (I'm sorry, I'm just going to say it) how they are using their own children as an initmacy buffer between themselves and their husbands. I did it too, and I am struggling to try to think if ANYTHING anyone could have said to me to show me this was not the right way. If I think of anything, I will let you know.
