a small bit of encouragement for you, from a male perspective:
it sounds to me like, you had problems in the past in your marriage, so your husband "gave up". Now you have actually made some changes in yourself... but your husband isnt ready to trust you that it's "real".
My advice... just keep on doing what you are doing. More talking wont make him believe... you continuing what you are doing, will.
The more you talk about it, the more it will stir him up, and get him into "arguging" mode. So... no more R talk When he starts talking negatively... just let it go.
When he believes what you are doing will stick.... then he will be back, and stay back. you probably wont have to ask him... he'll probably ask you
That's my amateur read of things, anyways I dont think your situation is that bad at all, relatively speaking. It's PAINFUL, yes. but very fixable, given time and consistency on your part. hang in there!
Be glad you're a woman, and he's a man. Men are much more simple to win back, then women
My current status: june 2006. Wife ran out and filed D. Finalized Jan 11, 2010, after 12.5 years M. 3 wonderful sons caught in the middle
