I just found your thread via Wifey's. I feel for you... I am right there with the detaching thing. I do feel too wrapped up in my H's moods and actions way too much.
I think I read a post by you that said something about school starting being hard with everyone finding things out. Don't tell anyone if you don't have too. In my sitch my H is still in the in a separate room, so it's easier, but maybe you can fake it for a while...
Also I also think I read something where you said you'd the be last person who thought their H would have an affair and you'd still want them back -- no you're not! I am too! Funny thing about my sitch is that my H used to always say he never understood why people cheat because it's too much work and he's too lazy -- but then my H found a way to cheat via the internet, so I guess his laziness found a way...
I don't really tell anyone about the OOW because it's not worth it and I still have hope for reconciliation and I don't need a judging public.
Good luck with your sitch, belated Happy Birthday, and I'll have to follow your thread. Take care of yourself and be the wonderful woman you are.
(((hugs))) to you...
M 39 H 34 D 6 M almost 8 years T 11 years Bomb: 6/5/08
