Starting again...with a Beginner's Mind

[sage]

OK..I'm a little bit all over the map. Probably won't get to finish the other "issues" today -- will address this weekend. Oh, and did anyone REALLY think I'd manage to post my goals in a CONCISE manner? Nah, me neither.

So...in the spirit of never giving up...here are my "top threes"

Top three things that really work great:
1. Noticing and thanking h. for the positives -- work around the house, his interactions with me.

2. Dropping the control rope. Giving up my monopoly on decision making.

3. Shutting my mouth and listening.

Top three things that still need work:

1. Managing my reactions to h. when something he's said or done hits a hotspot for me.

2. NOT interpreting his moods/silences and NOT MAKING ASSUMPTIONS. I honestly believe that when I stop this, SO MANY other things will GO AWAY!!!!

3. Self-soothing when I get anxious. Having an ACTION PLAN for the next period of intense insecurity.

Sage