Maybe that utter geekiness will help me focus my efforts.
Quoting sage: I failed to keep my PMA
* Primarily post-A but I've failed to maintain my interests because I've been worried about not being home 180 is to do things outside the house that are important to me. I'm doing OK with this but I think I still have a ways to go...
* I've been angry and resentful if he didn't show an interest in my stuff 180 is to NOT be angry if he's not interested in my stuff. To not take it personally. Well, I've done really well shedding the anger and resentment. h, in turn, has done GREAT showing interest in what's up with me!!!
Overall stuff I'm not sure where to put
* my constant drive for "more" left h with the feeling that I would never be happy "with him" 180s are to appreciate h's contributions and thank him for all that he does. To calm down and stop trying to "fix" everything, "fix" him. I'm doing well with the noticing and thanking AS LONG as I'm not anxious or stressed. If I am, I drop the ball and start assuming bad stuff and stop noticing the little things.
* I would have tacit expectations and then get angry/upset if he didn't respond the way I wanted 180 is to drop expectations of responses. I have dropped the anger pretty successfully. Again, when I'm stressed and/or anxious, I still get upset if h. doesn't respond to me in a particular way.
* I get all anxious and then seek reassurances from him in an overbearing way. This needs its own post. * Failure to treat/talk to h as a friend. I do and say things to him that I just wouldn't to a friend. [\color] This is SO hard to "action" orient but it's just a simple feeling when I'm talking to h as a FRIEND. I drop assumptions, I drop expectations, I stop trying to read his mind. If I actually consciously say "he is my friend" it can make a world of difference.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
