Thanks TIpper and ST.

I'm feeling very stuck right now. I feel like h is not trying very hard to improve things. He just moves along, continues his bad habits, the worst (to me) which is not following through on things he says he's going to do. He said he was going to put away/go through some of the stuff that's been sitting around since he moved out of the condo. He hasn't. He said he was going to call/write to try to work out a big debt he has with a credit card company. He hasn't and the collection agency continues to call here. He said he was going to hang a new toilet paper holder in the bathroom and he hasn't. He said he was going to read the SSM book and he hasn't. I could go on and on. I'm just tired of the lack of follow through. It makes it hard to believe that he's going to do anything he says he will.

He stays up way too late, so I usually go to bed alone.

He's overweight and I'm worried about his health. He doesn't do anything about it, continues to eat whatever he wants, doesn't exercise, is overdue for a checkup. I would like the kids to have their father around as long as possible.

I've been trying to be positive, so I don't usually post these kinds of complaints here, but I just felt the need to vent.

Last night I tried to initiate a conversation about us, telling him some of the things I want, in a non-demainding, mature way, and he agreed with me but didn't really say anything else.

I'm tired. No positives today. \:\( Thanks for listening.


me- 42
H- 51
married 11 years
D-9, S-9, D-3

bomb 4/07
h moved out 8/07
h moved back 4/08