A Rough Year Continues.... 4

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Hope,

I didn't know you were Golfing with the EA's Dad....wow.....I knew your H worked with him....but I didn't know this weekend was with him.

He is the owner of the home in Party Town that everyone in our crowd goes to play golf and snowmobile in the winter. They have a nice home with two guest cabins. We have all been going up there for several years.

When the EA and her husband really began to have problems, her dad (unbeknown to me) asked my H to keep an eye on her and her boys because her H (a friend of my H) was not (in their opinion) being good to them. My H, agreed. He began to take the 14 year old to college sporting events etc. and of course the EA and H had to communicate quite a bit to make those arrangements. It quickly got out of hand, and about a month later I discovered a phone message that she had left for my H. It was VERY inappropriate, to put it mildly. I flipped out, and things quickly went down hill from there.

It is great that the EA's dad is trying very hard to make you feel welcome and took ownership of his part....it would have been easy for him to slough it off on his "crazy" SIL.

Did you mean SIL figuratvely? He does not have a SIL.

He probably saw how his involvement made the sitch between his D and her H that much worse....especially from the incident.

I agree. At least he knows that it hurt me, which he never intended. He still maintains that the only thing that EA and my H did wrong was hide their communication. He is very emphatic that men and women can be friends, which is what he believes was happening.

I know my H, and I know better. I also know how he began to treat me during that period. Which is the very reason that I came to realize that something was very wrong.

Part of the EA's problem is that her parents have always believed that the sun rises out of her pretty little fanny. They kind of look down on her H and his family.

Incidently, what is the latest with them.....do they seem to be getting any better. I do think about them a little bit and the pain he was in.

I have not heard anything. A friend saw them together and shopping as a family a couple of days after the incident, but no one has mentioned anything else. I may hear something this weekend, but again maybe not. I have not seen them and people usually don't mention it around me.

I pray for them every day. I truly understand his pain, and I worry about the kids. I did find out that the 10 year old was there when it all happened. He had his dad by the leg and was trying to stop him from leaving the yard with the gun.

That piece came out during one of H's and I last arguments about his involvement and the inappropriate friendship. As disgusted as I was, I think that helped my H to open his eyes.

Looks like you are a couple again

Starting to feel like it too!!!

PS: Do you ever notice that you have to think about writing out Wife or Husband when communicating with someone else aside fom here.....lol (I do.......I think I think of my wife as a W)

You bet! I find myself trying to communicate with the abbreviations all of the time. I sent an email to my youngest son's gf yesterday and used PMA. She emailed back that she didn't know what that meant. I felt pretty foolish, and old.

Hope that all is well with you. My MRI went well last night. I have a routine onconology check up this afternoon and more blood work for them. I figure I'm probably a quart low after the last two weeks, lol.