I am so tired of H treating me like I have leprosy. I know he's messed up. I know he's confused, feeling guilty, having "fun" exploring his new freedom, or whatever. But, I know I deserve more. I deserve to have him talk to me. He hasn't said one word about OW since I told him that I know about her---that I know he's lied to me about her for 2 years. He tells me he will at least talk to me about the kids, but won't do that either. I've told him that I WILL NOT discuss them via e-mail, he tells me he will call, but doesn't. So, I have been thinking of how I want to handle the beginning of the school year. I let him propose the summer schedule, and agreed to it all. I think I should now have control.
I can only e-mail the schedule, since he won't talk. I hate this, but this is my only option for now. I need help making sure this e-mail is not confrontational, not emotional, just the facts:
Dear H: Open house is tonight at 6:30 and school starts Monday. We have not discussed scheduling during school. I have asked that we not handle this via e-mail, but we have failed to discuss this in person or by phone.
As I suggested a few weeks ago, I think that at least during the beginning of the school year the kids should sleep here during the week. I don't know what the softball schedule is yet, but until that is clear, I would suggest that you keep them in the evenings on Mondays and Wednesdays until 9:00. If you would like to pick them up and take them to school two days a week, that would be great. We can then continue with our every other weekend schedule. We can adjust the evening schedule to work around softball (so your evenings do not fall on game nights) when we have the schedule.
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
