Trusting I am sorry that your mother has reached this point. Don't worry about your H right now. I'm sure children will want to be there to say goodbye to their grandmother and it would be cruel to deny them this.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
T sorry to hear about your Mom My H stayed at a distance when my mom died in June I think it was too much for him they used to be close my mom was better to him than his My H never says anything about her I grieve..he never asks he is in his own world he doesnt listen well either only talks about his stuff usually business stuff peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I told my ex how bad my mom was doing about 1 month ago. He cried and then went right over to my parents house. Since then, he has not asked how she is. He said he would come to the funeral. I am not sure what he will do since he is unreliable.
I am terrified he will show up with OW.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Thanks everyone. I am doing o.k. It is painful, but I still feel blessed. My mother was diagnosed with kidney cancer 5 years ago. The doctor gave her a month to live. We were truly fortunate. I started grieving 5 years ago.
My family is very close. I have 3 brothers. My ex would not make it through the door if he brought OW. I also have 6 uncles that would love to lay their hands on him. This would be their perfect excuse. I am more worried for him if he pulls that stunt. He definitely would do this. After my divorce with him in court, he kissed OW on the lips in front of my father. He has something to prove in his ill mind.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I am sorry to hear about this. You are in my prayers.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
