Thanks everyone. I am doing o.k. It is painful, but I still feel blessed. My mother was diagnosed with kidney cancer 5 years ago. The doctor gave her a month to live. We were truly fortunate. I started grieving 5 years ago.

My family is very close. I have 3 brothers. My ex would not make it through the door if he brought OW. I also have 6 uncles that would love to lay their hands on him. This would be their perfect excuse. I am more worried for him if he pulls that stunt. He definitely would do this. After my divorce with him in court, he kissed OW on the lips in front of my father. He has something to prove in his ill mind.

Me: 46 H:44
Together: 25 years
Married: 20 years
Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07
OW: EA began 2005
PA began end of 2006
3 children,20, 16, 6
ex asked for forgiveness
01/16/11