You guys crack me up...I think it's ok that we're quadruplets -- that should mean that we'll come up with 4 times as many solutions, right??? 'cause we ARE solution oriented, right???
Had a great long weekend. Friday we decluttered around the house -- actually had a really frustrating first hour and h. ended up in his "I hate this house" mode which tends to really freak me out -- well, this time I didn't freak -- was calm, distanced myself from him a bit, kind of let him do his thing...he came to me, apologized, told me how much he loves me, etc and we got back to work. we made a LOT of progress but it's freaking amazing to me how much crap we have accumulated.
Sat. we left early for Pittsburgh. Got there in good time, took in a game at PNC park. Relaxed Sunday AM then back to the park -- Pirates won both games! Very cool. Dinner out sunday night then the drive home yesterday. Last night was relaxing -- a long walk, some TV time, some romantic catching up, etc.
Shiny -- I'm gonna put actions on the list! Today! I promise! I need to because I can feel a bit of the "I don't know how to be a good wife" funk creeping back in...
BUT, I DO know how. I just need to remind myself of that!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Quoting Mfl: I'm almost done reading it. You are truly amazing. Does your H have any idea how much you have put into saving this M? If he does he will surley love you with everything he has for evermore.
Yanni -- thank you so much for these lovely words. I needed the lift and the reminder that I HAVE worked hard and have seen results!
BTW -- the horoscopes ARE from cainer's website. Amazing!
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
Quote: I can feel a bit of the "I don't know how to be a good wife" funk creeping back in...
something I've realized is that at least to my h, being a good wife means being me, being happy, doing my thing, and accepting him for being him, in other words not taking everything so damn personally!
sounds simple right? but you and I both know that it aint!
It may not be easy LL, but let's all remind ourselves that we ARE doing it!!!
Take a look at our threads, ladies...we're not "perfect" at it, nor likely, will we ever be, but we are all moving in the right direction.
Sage, as "small" as it may seem, your 180 on H's "I hate this house!" is HUGE! It changed the entire dynamic. HE took the initiative to sort through his crappy mood and apologize to you!
It tears me up that you guys still doubt your abilities to be "good W's". You already ARE...you're just getting better at it!
