Letting God Take Control Part 16

[Dawn of Hope]

Dawn I even got to throw out a few times h I am fully confident you...... Worked like a charm. My h did say oh yeah you have a few canned responses and laughed. I am sure he loved the idea that there was nothing for him to fight me about. I am trying really hard here.

Glam,
EXCELLENT JOB!! I'm so glad my suggestion is helping you! High fives all around!! Give yourself a big pat on the back; you deserve it! Now you just need to think-before-you-speak consistently enough that it becomes your new habit, replacing the one that wasn't working!

The "canned responses" bit isn't a big surprise. My H asked me at one point a few months ago if I was "running a program" in the way I was dealing with him. I just smiled and told him no. Of course, this is the same man who for years has gotten upset any time I have done something he perceives as a "technique" in interactions with him...for example, reflective (mirroring) listening.

This is one of the few disadvantages of being married to someone highly intelligent...they can often see right through any type of manipulation or communication technique, no matter how mild or well-intended. Fortunately I can compete in his arena ...H used to say, quite seriously, that I was smarter than he was...I figured if we were both genius-level, it really wasn't an issue which of us had a few more IQ points! Although sometimes I now wonder if H has started to believe I'm an idiot, because I'm not calling him out on his lies or raking him over the coals about his ongoing A...oh well, I have to do what I believe is right, regardless of what he thinks.

Wow, didn't mean to get that sidetracked! Oops!

Three cheers for glam! You go, girl!

Peace,
Dawn