Trixi trying to find moorage

[Trixi]

I suggest that you start telling him, up front and blatantly, that you were WRONG.
That a good relationship, never even mind a good marriage. takes WORK. from BOTH PEOPLE. and he just aint putting in any serious work, and you arent happy with that.
That you're tired of being taken advantage of by him. By being just used by him as his plaything, "when he feels like it".

I just need to get to the point that I don't care how he responds to that. Because obviously, he will NOT respond in the way I hope. If he was going to do *that* I wouldn't need to say such a thing in the first place.

I am just so bummed that I didn't do this when I had more leverage and he felt more lovey dovey towards me. Oh well,if it had backfired, I would have been singing the blues for "too much pressure too soon."

Sigh