Trixi trying to find moorage

[Dom R]

Bah.. got woken up by work. The perils of working as a sysadmin

late night insight:

Somehow you have to get the idea across to him that he is in danger of losing you.

Indeed. Not sure HOW to do that..he thinks that I believe it is our destiny to be together.

well... start disabusing him of this notion!!!

This is your #1 problem. I said this over a YEAR ago. it's still true now

If "destiny" is what brings you together, then "obviously".. he doesnt have to do a lick of work in anything. It just has to "FeeEEEEEeeeel right...."
And if it doesnt... well, it's just "destiny" taking it's time... nothing that he has to do about it...


I suggest that you start telling him, up front and blatantly, that you were WRONG.
That a good relationship, never even mind a good marriage. takes WORK. from BOTH PEOPLE. and he just aint putting in any serious work, and you arent happy with that.
That you're tired of being taken advantage of by him. By being just used by him as his plaything, "when he feels like it".

I am really confused right now. At what point has enough time passed that I am not being unreasonable for wanting things to progress forward?

With your history, and what you've done for him? And put up with?
Hmm, lemme think now....

Um..... 3 months ago? 6?