Karen, W doesn't know what she is talking about, she is just upset, we both care about the church, but she has broken away and the guilt is eating at her, so she complains.
I'm with you, looking forward to moving on with my life, lucky guy who puts that spark in your eye and jump in your step, he will be a very lucky person.
H4H, I have been following your post, sorry I haven't posted, was going to today but something came up, you are in the exact same position I'm in, willing able and ready (I don't know if I'm ready - been lied to toooo much) but our W's are not, they want to do their own thing. Everyone says when my W crashes, she'll be looking for me. I think you are more of a candidate to have your W come running back to you and ask you to forgive her.
The problem is when, how long do you wait, can you wait, should you wait, why should you wait, Your in the hardest part of this whole crazy mess, the unknown, the confusion, the wondering.
Keep your head up and when the time comes to move on, you will know
Best wishes H4H and Karen - good night and
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
The problem is when, how long do you wait, can you wait, should you wait, why should you wait, Your in the hardest part of this whole crazy mess, the unknown, the confusion, the wondering.
You just said a mouthful there, bro.
After tonight, who knows. I hope that I'm not going to be waiting to hear something from her. I need to mosey on down the road like you have.
And swim.
Hey, how 'bout the Breaststroke?
Sorry, I just HAD to. You should know me by now A loco Texan.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
Hey kat, doing ok, going out to Happy Hour tonight with everyone from all the softball teams, a number of girls I met this year will be there. Would be nice if I cold ask them out - too soon, don't have my house in order, D not final, still paying W money every month (Ends Oct 1st) have a number of parties to plan Halloween, Oktoberfest and Christmas Eve are all big parties at my house. Have a number of remodeling projects i need to get done. I'm resigned to moving on with my life, thought I could tell these girls, that I would like to take them out but I don't want to drag them into the middle of everything I have going on in my life. At least they would know I'm interested in them.
W e-mails me every day, here is today's e-mail
The Lotus Touts must leave your hands in 6 MINUTES. Otherwise you will get a very unpleasant surprise. This is true, even if you are not superstitious, agnostic, or otherwise faith impaired.
ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully. TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any 0other. THREE. Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want. FOUR. When you say, 'I love you,' mean it. FIVE. When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye. SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married. SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight. EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone's dreams. People who don't have dreams don't have much. NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it's the only way to live life completely. TEN.. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling. ELEVEN. Don't judge people by their relatives. TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly. THIRTEEN. When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?' FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk. FIFTEEN. Say 'bless you' when you hear someone sneeze. SIXTEEN. When you lose, don't lose the lesson. SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R's: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions. EIGHTEEN. Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship. NINETEEN. When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice TWENTY- ONE. Spend some time alone.
I don't know what to do with this crap, I typically just delete them, but don't understand why she is sending me stuff like this
Who knows, I guess I'll Just keep swimming, just keep swimming
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
Hi Jeff! Sounds like you are keeping yourself busy. I just wanted to drop in and see how you were doing.
Sara
Me-31 H-38 M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs No kids Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06 Found out about OW 12-24-07 Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08 OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08 OW is back 4-19-08 H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08 Filed for divorce 6-5-08 Divorced 7-2-08
I haven't posted in some time; just want you all to know I'm still following your post It's been really busy around the house. I try to stop in on a daily basis and check out a couple of post to see what everyone is up to.
I've learned a lot from everyone here and I pray for everyone including my stbx W. Thank you all so much for checking in on me, for being there for me when I was down. I'm so lucky to have found this site, I don't know in what shape I would have been in going through all this alone, I really appreciate everyone's input Karen, Kat, Cat, H4H, Puppy, Sara, lwb, whatdidido, and everyone else who stop by to kick my butt and say hey GAL
Kids first day of school, S5 kindergarten, D6,D6 are 1st grade and D9 is in 4th all dressed up in their Catholic school uniforms, they looked great, I got all the kids up, got them dressed, we made all the beds, I got them fed and ready to go, then W swoops in and takes them to school. This will go on until Sept 2nd, when W starts working full time at the bar and the kids start after school program. Then, I'll take them and pick them up everyday. Won't have to see W hardly at all
When this happens, W is going to be an emotionally wreck, she just called to tell me that she cried when she dropped the kids off for school, began to cry on the phone, said she thinks her hormones are all screwed up. I wanted to say "Thats not all that's screwed up" but I didn't
It's going to be hard for me to work on myself GAL stuff, so much work to do, house cleaning, laundry, feeding the kids, making time for the kids and me to have fun together, homework is coming, baths, soccer practice and on and on and on. I don't know how I will ever meet anyone. I'm such a shy person, especially around women, I'm very polite and old fashioned and as you all know a stubborn old German. Not a very good combination for meeting women (busy and shy)
W calls again, tells me she is done grocery shopping, bought a bunch of stuff for the kids snacks for school and stuff for breakfast. I told her she didn't have to do that, she said she wanted to and that they were her kids also. I could hear her beginning to get emotional again, so I said I had to go.
Asking God for direction in my life, want to move on with my life but haven't let go of W completely yet. Have a lot going on between now and Christmas
Confused and Lonely in St. Louis
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
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