W then opined about how she wished I could have been reasonable with the so-called mediator she chose (I kept my mouth shut), and that because of that ( because I was just so unreasonable) all these additional costs for these lawyers were going to prove very costly to us (her) -- and that it was going to cost our S's financially as well, sadly, money that could have gone to them instead.
My X has thrown the same thing at me as well, that our L fees were so high because I was so unreasonable, etc. I found a lawyer who would draft the agreement with two revisions for $750. So I did it.....then he filed for custody rather than try to negotiate the things he didn't agree with. So we wasted a lot of money on lawyers because I wanted outrageous things like splitting extracurricular costs and establshing college accounts and sharing future college costs. WOW, aren't I selfish! So he filed for custody and tried to scare me into signing his agreement. He went so far as to request a psyche evaluation for me thinking I would be scared and agree to his demands. That cost him $750 cash up front. Then we ended up signing an agreement two days before we were to go to court. All those fees and we ended up with something we could have had for $750. It is amazing how they twist reality isn't it?!
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