I'm trying to catch up on threads, I've been just like you & haven't been able to post to anyone else much since I found out H married OW but I'm working on it.
I'm sorry to hear of all that you are going thru. It must be mind boggling the way H is going up & down.
I wish you the best you have been so strong you just keep hanging in there.
I want to thank you also for your support for me, you have been there from the beginning & I wouldn't have made it thru this long if it hadn't been for this site.
By the amount of communications (phone, email, photos etc...) that your H is sending I think he is REALLY looking forward to this visit.. and to meet that speaks volumes!!!!!!
6 more days girlfriend.. and you are detaching.. timing couldn't be more perfect for you to gel!
((((SMW, Jen, Deauxlie, nlt, W2G)))), thank you! You make me feel like the Universe is pulling in my favor
I reread my current thread and that's where I started:
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I spent the whole week praying, asking for clarity. I'm just hoping that my prayers will be answered soon."
My prayers WERE answered!!
H didn't call today (he's written yesterday that he has a birthday party to go to) but it doesn't matter. I'm still feeling detached. I know that I'm going to be all right, whatever may come. I'm conscious of the irony of getting ready to drop the rope 6 days prior to H's return! And I'm not going to. But it makes me feel good just to know that I CAN.
And - D's problem with Admission Offise has been solved! I'm so relieved.
Today early in the morning I went for a quick swim and fell asleep by the pool. I just hope I didn't snore or drool, LOL. I wanted to leave by 10 AM, instead I woke up at 1.30 PM! Even though I was in the shadow I got a bit sunburnt, but it was amazingly restorative . I never realized I was so exhausted.
I will visit everyone's thread tomorrow ,
Love you (((((all)))))
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
"By the amount of communications (phone, email, photos etc...) that your H is sending I think he is REALLY looking forward to this visit.. and to meet that speaks volumes!!!!!!
6 more days girlfriend.. and you are detaching.. timing couldn't be more perfect for you to gel!"
So I get the feeling.. we are playing hard to get?
I have a hard time jumping in.. and I need some help.. cause the last thing I want to do.. is read 20 months worth of posts.
So.. what I usually say to people.. is get me up to speed. Throw some emotion into the post and just lay it out there.
What I have so far.. is he is coming home.. to live with you.. and may still have some "interaction" with OW. You are just not sure what to think about all this. You don't want to show that you are "happy" he is home because there are still lots of things that need to be sorted out.
Close?
Way wrong?
Throw some emotion into the post and just lay it out there. Catch me up.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
Oh thank goodness the admissions problem is solved...much less for you to worry about now.
You are so at ease now with all that's going on...I remember when I first posted to you and how worried you were about everything. Look how far you've come Stella!!
It sounds like an amazing nap...laying around in your B suit on those amazingly comfy lawn chairs...ahhhh
5 more days?
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
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