Mike, maybe I missed it...how often will you get time w/D2? As for the negative folks, RUN! You deserve better. Hope you are able to relax and enjoy all your hard work in the new house. That's code for take a break for a day or two and reflect on this new thing you made, a HOME. I pray D2 has years and years of happy memories there. Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Every other week. Wednesday @ 5:00pm until Sunday @ 5:00pm..standard holidays, 2 weeks in the summer..works out to about 112 days a year..I gave up some days to get Wednesday-Sunday. I did not want just Fri-Sun..50/50 would have been logistically impossible. I will be 57 miles away from her and where she will attend school. I wanted to be realistic while getting better than the minimum 80 days a year.
Oh yes, there will be many happy memories. D2 is very blessed to have a Daddy who loves her so much. I'm so sorry that W cannot seem to regulate her on/off switch. OT - are you a Ben Stiller fan? 'Cos if you are, you really must see his new flick, Tropic Thunder. I laughed my farking a$$ off. Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Every other week. Wednesday @ 5:00pm until Sunday @ 5:00pm..standard holidays, 2 weeks in the summer..works out to about 112 days a year..I gave up some days to get Wednesday-Sunday. I did not want just Fri-Sun..50/50 would have been logistically impossible. I will be 57 miles away from her and where she will attend school. I wanted to be realistic while getting better than the minimum 80 days a year.
So that's four nights every fortnight? Will she go to the same school all the time? How old is she?
I wish my h would have sat down and worked out a parenting plan like, a year ago. Instead he got pissed when I gave him one that I had worked out based on what he told me he could do. Of course it was insensitive of me to not include him in the decision making process...never mind I wrote the word draft all over it.
Now we have a parenting plan set up through mediation but he has been o/s for the last week so it remains to be seen if it'll work.
If there's anything positive to come out of this, at least you know that you are thinking straight....you are aren't you?...and she is NOT.
** Purple
As soon as you trust yourself you will know how to live. Goethe
yes. 4 nights every other weekend. She is 2 now. My STBX and I basically came up with this on our own. She offered 2 nights every other weekend, I counter offered 50/50..in other words she offered minimum and I went maximum..then we negotiated what we came up with..I get a Christmas vacation also..
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If there's anything positive to come out of this, at least you know that you are thinking straight....you are aren't you?...and she is NOT.
Yes, I try to. It's not easy with a crazy person.
The parenting plan was set up during the first mediation. It has been signed off on and goes into effect when I move, which will be Friday..
I don't think I have ever posted to you before, but wanted to tell you I am so very sorry about your and your daughter. I hate to see such wonderful fathers pulled away from their own children. My heart goes out to you. She loves you and knows you love her.
thanks for that. I miss her already..
And in this is the main differencee between a WAS & a LBS, unconditional love and compassion...
You are doing it right my friend thru the mirky waters & craziness you are doing right...
You never get over the loss, but you learn to deal with the pain...
I'm not kidding, first chance you get - go see this movie.(like a reward to yourself for accomplishing your great escape!) I never laugh out loud at the movies, and we were rolling in the aisles. Beware-They didn't even pretend to have a sense of decency. Rated R and they mean business. IMO, Tom steals the show. Peace.
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
Good evening everyone. I finished moving all the big stuff and this will be my last night in the house that I built for STBX. I have some clothes, a few small items and some tools that need to be split up.
I plan on cleaning up some of the mess I made while moving, tomorrow, I'll take the trash off and I thought I would change the well water filter since my D drinks the water here. I wonder why I am doing these things after the way I have been treated through all this, I guess it's because it's the right thing to do.
The house now looks empty. The house I am moving into looks fantastic..bedrooms and bath anyway. We decorated the last bedroom today. The LR is being used for storing supplies we are using to finish the kitchen. We have the kitchen ceiling mudded now and the final coat can be sanded tomorrow. Work continues on the floor.
I mowed the new place with MY Lawnmower yesterday.
Brian, the guest bedroom is waiting on you buddy..anytime and if anyone else wants to come over then please do
On the STBX front..drama again day before yesterday, then again last night..none this morning. I get home around 7:00 tonight and who pulls up..the wicked witch MIL with my D, then STBX whips in behind her. STBX gets out on crutches . It seems she has torn a ligament in her left ankle. Will be on crutches for 2 weeks and then possible have surgery if not better. I bet it will be hard chasing a 2 year old on crutches. STBX got down in the floor earlier and then could not get up, she resembled one of those weebles or a rolly poly on the floor. I felt sorry for her and offered her a hand and it was really funny, she really resisted taking my hand but finally relented.
So midday tomorrow I will be gone from here. A new journey starts. I am now just another statistic.
My phone will be hooked up on Tuesday. My cable and Internet will not be hooked up until the 25th..I'll have access to this site when I am at work and if I find a WiFi hotspot somewhere in town..no wifi in my neighborhood so I'll be without at home for a while.
So there it is.
I miss my Daughter.
Last edited by M from Tennessee; 08/15/0802:27 AM.
Good evening everyone. I finished moving all the big stuff and this will be my last night in the house that I built for STBX. I have some clothes, a few small items and some tools that need to be split up.
I plan on cleaning up some of the mess I made while moving, tomorrow, I'll take the trash off and I thought I would change the well water filter since my D drinks the water here. I wonder why I am doing these things after the way I have been treated through all this, I guess it's because it's the right thing to do.
The house now looks empty. The house I am moving into looks fantastic..bedrooms and bath anyway. We decorated the last bedroom today. The LR is being used for storing supplies we are using to finish the kitchen. We have the kitchen ceiling mudded now and the final coat can be sanded tomorrow. Work continues on the floor.
I mowed the new place with MY Lawnmower yesterday.
Brian, the guest bedroom is waiting on you buddy..anytime and if anyone else wants to come over then please do
On the STBX front..drama again day before yesterday, then again last night..none this morning. I get home around 7:00 tonight and who pulls up..the wicked witch MIL with my D, then STBX whips in behind her. STBX gets out on crutches . It seems she has torn a ligament in her left ankle. Will be on crutches for 2 weeks and then possible have surgery if not better. I bet it will be hard chasing a 2 year old on crutches. STBX got down in the floor earlier and then could not get up, she resembled one of those weebles or a rolly poly on the floor. I felt sorry for her and offered her a hand and it was really funny, she really resisted taking my hand but finally relented.
So midday tomorrow I will be gone from here. A new journey starts. I am now just another statistic.
My phone will be hooked up on Tuesday. My cable and Internet will not be hooked up until the 25th..I'll have access to this site when I am at work and if I find a WiFi hotspot somewhere in town..no wifi in my neighborhood so I'll be without at home for a while.
So there it is.
I miss my Daughter.
Hey Bro...
I know what you have said in the past and I respect that, but there will be some grieving for no other reason then it as part yours...
Cleaning up behind yourself just shows the level you are on my friend. Changing the filter is for D2 so that's what matters...
I'm sure it is, but it is what it is she will have to deal with it she got what she wanted hope she thinks it was worth it...
The 'new' house just sounds awesome and I WILL come and meet you face to face and I will have some moonshine please and thank-you...oh and a Bud Light...
'MY' mower...you kill me!!!
It's now her drama not yours. I can only imagine the strength it took for her to accept your hand, still the gentleman to the bitter end good on you...
You will be in a better place and in a better mind...
. It seems she has torn a ligament in her left ankle. Will be on crutches for 2 weeks and then possible have surgery if not better. I bet it will be hard chasing a 2 year old on crutches. STBX got down in the floor earlier and then could not get up, she resembled one of those weebles or a rolly poly on the floor. I felt sorry for her and offered her a hand and it was really funny, she really resisted taking my hand but finally relented.