It's true. What's attractive to one person is not to another. but my mama always said, "Every pot has its cover." I also think that a bad experience teaches us, maybe not so much what we want, but what we will no longer tolerate.
It's weird though, in some ways, my friend is lot like me, and even funnier, I find myself taking the opposite role from what I used to...example: I was always the packer and organizer. He is even more so. I find myself telling him he's over packed. "Why do you need all this stuff?" it's funny. He likes to be prepared. XH never packed ANYTHING...his clothes, and that was it. Never for the kids, never for camping, never for long car rides.
Friend relationships with men...now there's a topic. I have some male friends. Sometimes they are the easiest relationships to have. I have one friend, I've known him for 25 years or so, kept in touch with him off and on. He's been an amazing support through my dad's illness, a wealth of information. Just an easy, comfortable friendship.
I do have to admit though, When you're single, it's hard not to look at men without that thought popping into your head. Hmm, he's cute, funny, nice...wonder if he's single.
I think you can tell when the chemistry is there and when it's not. I certainly don't think every guy is hitting on me, but I can tell when one is. Sometimes it's for real, sometimes it's just a game they play. I don't think it's all bad. Sometimes it's just lighthearted play, like some of the chats here, but when he says his wife is in bed and wants to know if I like ***** (whatever), that's just bad.
I'm not an expert, but I've been there. And I survived.
