Starting again...with a Beginner's Mind

[sage]

Thing is, I end up getting into a funk and it doesn't help our sitch any...as I'm sure it doesn't for you.

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It's more that I'm afraid of going back to previous patterns that led to her having an A in the first place. The irony here is that by projecting my fears onto her, I am the one repeating past patterns.

jethro -- two amazing truths from you! I know the funk VERY well -- it blocks my ability to feel good, to laugh, to act "as if", all of that.

And the patterns? well, that's for sure. Michele hit the nail on the head about cycles that partners get into...and how to get out of 'em. I get so frustrated with myself when I realize I've completely ignored the 180s and acted as if on autopilot once again.

I think I'm just going back to act "as if," and redouble my efforts on hitting her love language. I find that things are best when I'm doing that. What about you?

I gotta get back to where we feel relaxed. I know how to get there...going out, movies, hiking, relaxing at home. Me giving him some space, stop trying SO hard to make everything perfect. A bit of physical activity would help too .

Then, I've gotta get ready for the cycle -- AND BREAK IT this time!!!

Sage