Hey where's No Hill? I thought this was his thread???
I'm dating a Shy Guy. His manners are impeccable. But he didn't take 3 dates to kiss me. He kissed me the first night - more than once. But did hold back on sex for a couple of months. When it happened - it was great. It was worth waiting for.
I think that many men treat women as ladies, not as meat. I have noticed that those who are good to their sisters and Moms are usually good to all women. I know my guy fits that category.
And Jilly - I HATE having to ask guys to help me. I am So independent. Had to do that today. Needed to get a new Granite Countertop with sink for the bathroom. Any idea how heavy those things are? And no guy rushed over to help. I had to have one paged. Figures!
I think it is good to interact with lots of guys in a non-sexual manner. It is really highly unlikely that they're hitting on you - they are just being friendly. There really are a lot of nice, friendly guys around. Of course if you've doused your body in pheremones, and a body that doesn't quit and you "flaunt it" - well, lots of guys WOULD give you the time of day. And more - LOL. I doubt any of us are really in that category.
As for the online movers and shakers - a bunch of morons. I used to run into it daily on the dating sites. Let's meet right now. Let's go straight to bed. yeah right. I deleted those guys immediately.
AG - we have hugged, etc. and he's always a gentleman. He was divo not long before mine was final so I think we might both be leery.
Jilly - I guess maybe I shouldn't but I take a bit of offense. I'm not sending out a come take me home vibe. I guess I am a bit standoffish - which doesn't tie into getting me right into bed. I work 2 jobs (quitting one) and am a single mom. I have a lot more to consider than some of my friends who don't have kids.
AG - I will keep you posted. I have invited him to a "pig n swig" on the 30th. I guess in the end, I'm content to have him as a friend.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
What is attractive to one person is different to another. It is personal. If we all liked the same type - what would happen to everyone else? Or to us. There's the right person for everyone who wants someone. They just have to be open to the possibility and not close the door. Give someone a chance.
Ahhhh.... the family. That was one thing with my new guy. Took him FOREVER to introduce me to the family. I had introduced him to mine at the 6 month mark. It was a natural time. Finally met his after 3 years. And it went well, just long overdue.
My BIL used to host a pig roast every year. A guy came and did the pig, we filled a canoe with ice, brought out own booze and salads. Used a farmer's field. Played baseball, had a bonfire. Ronnie Hawkins and the Hawks and Levon Helm (if any of you are country buffs) used to attend and play ball with us.
I tried to arrange one last year here at the cottage. It was either "do it yourself" or hire the caterer at an app cost of $2000! I declined since I wanted to celebrate our 10 years at the cottage. Might do the "do it yourself" way sometime soon. Brandon (son) was just talking about it the other night. Maybe he and his friends would cook - that would get me to do it.
Good luck with the family. They're usually a pretty good judge of character. See what they think.
It's true. What's attractive to one person is not to another. but my mama always said, "Every pot has its cover." I also think that a bad experience teaches us, maybe not so much what we want, but what we will no longer tolerate.
It's weird though, in some ways, my friend is lot like me, and even funnier, I find myself taking the opposite role from what I used to...example: I was always the packer and organizer. He is even more so. I find myself telling him he's over packed. "Why do you need all this stuff?" it's funny. He likes to be prepared. XH never packed ANYTHING...his clothes, and that was it. Never for the kids, never for camping, never for long car rides.
Friend relationships with men...now there's a topic. I have some male friends. Sometimes they are the easiest relationships to have. I have one friend, I've known him for 25 years or so, kept in touch with him off and on. He's been an amazing support through my dad's illness, a wealth of information. Just an easy, comfortable friendship.
I do have to admit though, When you're single, it's hard not to look at men without that thought popping into your head. Hmm, he's cute, funny, nice...wonder if he's single.
I think you can tell when the chemistry is there and when it's not. I certainly don't think every guy is hitting on me, but I can tell when one is. Sometimes it's for real, sometimes it's just a game they play. I don't think it's all bad. Sometimes it's just lighthearted play, like some of the chats here, but when he says his wife is in bed and wants to know if I like ***** (whatever), that's just bad.
I'm not an expert, but I've been there. And I survived.
Jilly - I guess maybe I shouldn't but I take a bit of offense. I'm not sending out a come take me home vibe. I guess I am a bit standoffish - which doesn't tie into getting me right into bed. I work 2 jobs (quitting one) and am a single mom. I have a lot more to consider than some of my friends who don't have kids.
Oh, gosh, I didn't mean to imply that about you at all. I was really thinking more about a couple of my D's friends and former co-workers who always have seemed to attract the wrong kind of people.
He sounds like a keeper. Someone who makes me laugh is a must for me. Of course the integrity things is big as well and it does sound like he has both.
I so understand the male friends. I have been blessed to have so many great guy friends. They were there to pick me up when I needed a laugh and to stroke my bruised ego when I needed it. After ex left they were the ones that changed my tires and came to my house while I was at work to take my car to the mechanic. They've fixed lawn mowers, garage doors, and have been dinner & movie dates. I have always have a great repore with guys but I guess that comes with having 2 brothers. I wouldn't trade 1 of my girlfriends but girlfriends can't help you when you have a car that won't start. (well my girlfriends can't anyway) My point is that if you have a guy that not only understands how important these relationships are then he sounds like the whole package.
As far as the guys you mentioned that make those comments. Well they are out there for sure, and to some guys knowing that we're divorced brings out the pig in them, but except for a couple of instances, I feel for the most part, they are way in the minority.
