What??? a party on my thread??? and I was out buying a new countertop and missed it??? We'll have to party on my countertop.
OK...
I have always believed that bad things happen to good people. Some of us have had to deal with the death or brain damage of our children then have our spouses turn on us after all that. Almost more than one can handle. But it did make us stronger.
My ex got hit with a TON of stuff at the time of our split. In the first case - he did not want a split. He wanted to have an affair, but had no idea he would get caught. maggot wanted him to get caught and set it up to happen. Hmmmm.... On the day we split - H was arrested. He got a dui and further charges (not something we're going to talk about - suffice to say - it was major and I knew I could not look at him the same way again. To him - his "rescue" by maggot and her total acceptance of him, warts and all made the leaving so much better than the horror surrounding the split. And for a time - it was likely great for him. But who could continue forever with a woman so manipulating and controlling? She monitors EVERYTHING that he does. Rarely lets him go anywhere alone. Accompanies him everywhere - even to golf (his favourite activity) which he eventually gave up.
Yes, I've seen my ex give up everything that he loved. His children, his activities, his job, the cottage, the dream house we built, our travel and me. The only thing he kept from the past was the red convertible. But it is 12 years old now. The leather seats have been ripped. And it has a funny smell to it. Hmmmm... not exactly the future he had in mind.
I agree. We are often wronged by others and rarely ever get the apology, the acknowledgement of regret or to see "karma" in action. But I agree with those of you who wrote about guilt. There is not a friend or family member who has not come to me when they've run into him. And he looked guilty. And they said he looks terrible. Every one of them says that he looks horrible. Strained. Tired. Aged beyond his years.
Yes, to me - that is "karma" or whatever you want to call it
And Bethie - how is going to look at the Pearly Gates when it is revealed that you've been shacking up with the Dalai Lama?
