I was looking at that modern womans divorce guide site where the divorce cake pictures were and it looks like a good resource for you.
I know that California has a 6 month wait for a divorce and maybe that is for a good reason. Who knows what kind of attitude adjustment may occur during this time with your H. Getting a D is definitely hurting for him too. I still have some hope that your marriage is going to be saved before the papers are signed.
I wonder whether deciding not to ML with H helped him realize that he actually did miss the intimacy and closeness between you both. But you don't need to come to any conclusions now. Keep being you and see how this evolves. I agree with Kerry, if the door is still open a little, all hope is not lost yet.
Me45 W35 M6 T8 D16 SD11 D0 Dec 07: Bomb July 08: Busted! Thread
Thanks for checking in with me about the "big day"--right back at you! I hope you're having a good day, and it sounds like your card to H was perfect. I'm glad you've got his attention--probably has everything to do with the strength you're showing.
I'll check back to see how your day went. I'm off to dinner later with H to "celebrate" our "last" anniversary. Yeehaw!
It is in the shelter of each other that people live.--Irish proverb
I agree with Kerry about the 6 month waiting period being a good thing in some cases. Here, its 30 days, and boom, you're on the market.
Wow. H is approaching you. You are doing great, GFI, doing great. Let him lead. Let your heart stay open to the thought of making things work while your head reminds you that you can do this with or without him.
(((Girlie))) doesn't it suck bananas that you finally move on, & now he seems to "get it". OMGosh !!! That killed me when it happened to us. All those years, I begged, pleaded, nothing. Then, I move on mentally & Boom ! He wants to work it out. I almost didn't. I had 4 kids. That sorta decided for me.
Now, what do you imagine you would want 10 years from now ? To be with this man ? IF he can jump through hoops & prove that he's worth keeping ? Or to have something else ?
Now on a joking note... best break up card I ever
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
saw, had a romantic couple on the front, & it said....
Last night was Amazing !!!
you open the card & it said
You should have been there !
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Just checking in to see how you're doing and how yesterday was. I hope you had a good day. I would agree with the others that it seems your H maybe finally coming to the realization that he's about to lose something fantastic (as we all know you are).. I hope that the guy you once knew is emerging because he sounded almost worthy of you!
Hugs, W2G
PS. Sorry the song was heartbreaking.. I agree it is too.. I just pray that every LBS hears those lyrics from their WAS.. I know it's a dream but it would be nice if every marriage/relationship could be saved.
Ms. imp, An interesting development on your anniversary as well! Are there any updates?
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
