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[newnamenewlife]

Hi NG,
I've been catching up on your situation. I'm sorry your H moved out,but you sound like you're doing pretty well. Our situations seem so similar. My H moved out about 7 weeks ago and I am in a much better "place" than I have been since the whole insanity started in October. I am still sad and angry, and I still get a pang every time I see my H at a kid exchange, and I do miss him a lot at time-- but I also feel much less miserable than when he was here but not really here.

One thing that was very upsetting for me was that, less than two weeks into our S, I arrived at mediation to see my H had removed his wedding ring. I asked him about it and he said something lame like "I was experimenting with taking it off and I put it in a pocket and now I can't find it. I'll put it back on if you want."

Made me so mad--and no, I didn't want him to put it back on just because I wanted him to. I decided about a week later to take mine off too. It was really hard to get off because my fingers have gotten chubbier! But I did it and I have not looked back. For me, it really helped me to feel like my new self. I still love my H, but after what we've been through this past year, I'm done. I am not standing for this M. I still believe that MAYBE one day in the future we will reunite--MAYBE--but it will be a completely new start IF it even happens, and our old rings won't apply.

I was reluctant to remove my ring, but once H's was off I felt foolish keeping it on.

My kids are also doing surprisingly well--unnervingly so. My D11 seems to PREFER us living apart (even though we were not a high-conflict couple) and D7 definitely feels it more, says things that make me sad--but she, too, seems basically fine.

My biggest concern right now is how H&I are going to figure out our schedule once school starts. There are so many variables this year--two different schools, far apart, which means D11 has to leave an hour earlier than D7. They'll be waking up at two different homes on different days--it's really complicated.

Anyway, just sending you support. It does get easier, as people said. I didn't believe it but now I do. So hang in there!