You're reaching out to us again and you have to admit all we're giving you is our opinion. We gladly share.
I can't imagine being pleased that someone made dinner after I worked a 2nd shift to pay the bills. I'd be pi$$3d because I had to make him do it. Hey, that's not a bad deal-for HIM.
What a good friend you have to put herself on the line to tell you what you need to hear. She almost deleted it because she probably knows it could go either way. All I have to say is KEEP THAT FRIEND OF YOURS. She's a keeper.
I know you want to have a child some day TM. If you stay with BF you could, but you'd never enjoy the child having to take care of everything. It's unfair, but that's life. In today's economy I honestly don't know how young people with children are doing it. But I will tell you this: It takes two. And even then it's hard work.
Nobody can change your sit but you. You know that. What I want you to think about is how has your BF changed since you first starting posting about him over 2 years ago. Write it down. Also, ask yourself how you had hoped 2008 would be for yourself and how much has changed since you sold the condo. I seem to recall you planning for debt reduction and a more stable existence.
I know your X hurt you and that's probably why you allow this. Most of us were older when that happened and already had our children. But you could look at this as a pathway to prevent your kids from going through what other DB'ers kids had to endure. People will take advantage of us as long as we allow it. Plus, you DO deserve better.
