Partner left after 9 yrs - looks the end is nigh

[AliSuddenly]

Hey lisa...Well he could be very depressed with this moving away business hanging over him, but not so much that he cant go to work Monday and play golf and probably football tonight. I think he is done with me and after testing his feelings for 6 months, he is done with me for good I expect.

He has been ignoring me really since he last called me on Friday 1st August (yep, that solar eclipse) and annoyingly, I missed the call, I wish I hadnt, as it was the last time he's called.

Thinking about my counselling last night, I have been looking to him as my pillar, my strength, my anchor. And todays C, I said we were a nurturing 'mother' to one another and I guess he doesnt want to be that pillar, anchor or mother anymore for me. I am still willing to be there for him (as I always was) but he doesnt want me to be strong for him either, he wants to make it on his own. The whole dynamic of our R has changed. I am happy for us to go forward together being in charge of our own destinies, but he doesnt want that. I dont think he is in his cave, I think he is pointedly tellling me he doesnt want anything more to do with me, the R has run its course (I HATE that phrase).