Being anchored and knowing the moral, good life you are leading and had led, must be a much better feeling then having to feel guilt and uneasiness every time you look at the kids, or your ex face or have to explain why you are not w/ your family. Wouldnt want that life for all the time shares and vacations in the world!
I often wonder about my ex and his new wife. They seem to show no shame or remorse for what they have done. They think they are above reproach because according to them they weren't having an affair. They would both stand before me even now and swear they didn't have an affair. I have to wonder if they've repeated the lie so many times that they think it is the truth. But the reality lies in the facts. He was in her home night after night until midnight or later before he moved out of our home. He was calling her up to 10 times a day before I ever knew he wanted a divorce. He married her two weeks after our divorce wsa final (3 months after he stood in a parking lot swearing that they were just friends.) So it dumbfounds me that they can still act as if they did nothing wrong. So pathetic. Everyone else can see the wrong, but they think they are above it all. And the sad part is that as much as the older kids have accepted it, they still know the truth and think less of him for it. He can never get that respect back. And at some point our younger two children will also realize the truth. They were there and saw it all....they just don't fully understand it, but I am sure they will. And they will have to deal with it as well. So was it all worth it for them? They seem to think so.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
