I wouldn't ask him a thing about his behavior, i.e., being tired. He's either not sleeping because of the depression or he's out running the streets at night or watching tv. I suspect it's the depression hitting him very, very hard.
Oh, no! Holey jeans? Talk about wanting to be a teenager again. Then again, I see a lot of adults getting them these days.
Just let him stew. At some point, you'll be able to mention the car, but I would go ahead and make your plans for having the repairs done, etc. I wish your son good luck on passing his driver's test. I know he'll do just fine.
Your plans for the rest of the summer sound delightful! You'll be able to get a lot done, especially if your h doesn't know your schedule!
Enjoy your mini vacations and thank you for the birthday wishes.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Still trying to leave H out there to figure things out .... Funny how he has been here every day. Quiet and tired as usual. Yesterday he took d13 out to get a few things. They planned a trip to a waterpark for today. She was so excited and I am thankful he kept the commitment to her. They have talked about going all summer.
While h was here I sat by the pool or did my chores. Just kept busy and tried not to hover around him. I was up late last night and my tm rang on my phone. It was H. He here wanting to sleep on the couch so that he could just get up and go with d13 (it is over an hour away where they are going and they wanted to get there early b4 the crowd).
I thought about it for a bit and told him ok. I know Snodderly...not good, but I really didn't want to ruin things for d13. He came in. I can tell he had been drinking. He asked if I wanted to join them today and I declined. I had plans with s16. He was all over me until he just passed out. Very strange.
I don't know if it was the alcohol or what it was, but there was such a sadness in his eyes. I am not trying to read into it just an observation. I don't know how he lives the life he does. Without his family.
Anyway, they just left and I am hoping they have a great time. H did not get much sleep, so I hope all goes well. He showed me the new t-shirt he got from the gym he joined. Yes, still a teenager in there. I wish he would just give in and accept his age.
I don't know why my h does this. Why he can be so distant for so long and then show up like he did. He really could have gone back to his parent's house last night to sleep after work and have been up here on time. Instead he chose to sleep on my couch. Not sure what he was looking for and I am not sure he is either.
All I know is it is a beautiful day. S16 and I are going out for breakfast and then to run some errands....then we will be by the pool. I am going to try to put last night out of my head, but I feel this man can't let go anymore than I can.
A, You did the right thing by allowing him to sleep on the couch. At least you knew where he was and could ensure that he got up and out the door w/o disappointing your daughter. Your children need to come first and you have to do what you must to ensure that they are okay and happy.
As for the drinking, poor sap, trying to alleviate his pain that way. Depression and withdrawal go hand-in-hand. They disappear for a while and when it lifts just a little bit, they come back around again, and so forth. It's tiresome when they do this, but it's the way depression works for some.
I do hope that they enjoy their day at the waterpark. They are so much fun, but it takes a lot of energy to stay at it while there. I hope he doesn't disappoint her. As for you and your son, enjoy the day! That's what relaxing is all about.
Keep moving forward!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
