Hi Ali, glad you saw your C. It is alwful that he is ignoring you but I guess his silence is speaking volumes and he is expecting you to get the message loud and clear.
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a) Hes deliberately ignoring my call b) He's doing a because he has decided its over for good c) he's doing a becuase he has met someone else d) He's doing a becuase he's too depressed and cant handle speaking to me e) He put the phone down and went in the shower - but he atill hasnt rung back, so he is still doing a f) he went straight out for a drink after putting the phone down at 9.10
I guess a,b,c, are all the same-he is done,long gone. I guess e, as you say is more of a, f, well not sure could be he's down the pub. but he hasn,t been there since you last emailed or left a message so we are back to a. Rejection is the worst thing. His depression guilt cowardiss does not excuse his behaviour. You have a right after 9 years to at least have had a face to face goodbye. Even if he lied through his teeth to your face. Not sure how far away his place is from yours but short of stalking him and making him face you what can you do. Let him go and thank God you didn't waste any more than 9 years on this person. Thank God for the 9 years and be thankful he was in your life but accept it is over. Probably too soon for either but you can at least realise that there is nothing more you can do.
Don't fully understand the lease business(must have missed that bit) but if it is so important that you need him to sign you will have to go see him or find away to deal with it alone. NO doubt others will tell you the exact opposite and to wait and try yet more db tactics.God works miracles and to pray. I believe that to but after many years on this site,it is rare and what isn't rare is people hurting and prolonging that hurt and pain by a refusal to see the writing on the wall.Or settling for second best. Sorry if I sound harsh and cruel but I am a realist. Thats how I survived. Never say never but for now take care of you by whaever means you can. Maybe he has called you by now and you have talked. I hope with all my heart that you spare yourself the blame game. If he contacted you after leaving him alone for a month you could try that again but please move on from the waiting. No expectations. Don't let him decide if he wants you in his life. It is your life and we make our own happiness. Took me forever to learn that one! Be kind to yourself, love yourself and find that inner stength. YOU will I promise come through this and go on to have happy times.
