Can somebody please clarify how it is okay to have hope...but not to have expectations? I don't know how the two don't kinda go hand in hand.

I know you can't expect someone to react a certain way...or you can't expect a certain outcome...

but in this instance, I am referring to ....if H does decide to come back...and I have made myself perfectly clear to him on this...I expect no MOW...nada...nothing...no contact whatsoever. So I can hope he comes back and hope we can reconcile and not expect that he stop seeing MOW?

BA

Me:43
H:48
M:24 yrs T: 26 yrs
2 kids
ILYNILWYA 8-07 - MOW 9-07
H moved out 8-2-08 Back 8-18-08
Affair continues
Back home but not emotionally