You said you put too much thought into things that you shouldn't be...your situation, your W.......I don't think you are putting too much thought into that. There can never be enough thought into trying to save a marriage.
I DO agree you need to put more thought into YOU, though, like you said. DOing things for you is important for you because it can help you save your marriage, AND it will help you become a happy, independent individual.
You talked about how, on Sunday, she was being nice to you. H4h, she left you and is seeing the guy she had the affair with. If you want her back you can't be her "friend" right now. If you don't care about that, you can be her friend and she will be the happiest woman on earth. She'll get you as her friend and a little more ('cause face it, you love her and always will), and she gets this OM which is "doing it for her" at the moment.
Your circle of single women friends is ok if you were single. But, you are married, wanting to stay married to your wife. If that fact changes, then other things change as well...
I have seen you strong with your kids and at times with your W.
Don't even entertain the idea of hanging around B. You can't see it, but all of us can. It is NOT a good idea. You are NOT reading too much into her calls. Good plan to keep a distance from her.
I am sorry that you feel we don't see your heartache. We do. We are helping you fight for your marriage on a website called, "divorce busting". We won't be telling you it is ok to see other women because you feel "it is time" or "right for you" and we won't be telling you to be helpful to your W who is leaving the house and having an affair. We are trying to tell you things that we feel will help you save your marriage.
Why are you inviting her over for dinner? If it is to give her the Retro info...woo hoo....if it is to just be nice..booooo.
Hope you are doing better today. We do care about you so much. YOu are such a kind man and we all want you to succeed and do everything you possibly can to save your marriage and the woman you love so dearly.
