Reason to Believe on the Lake Erie Shore

[kptch]

You have a great thread going here. I can't give any better advice than what has been posted but I have read and re-read all of the posts along with the ones on my thread.

I could easily substitute my sitch for yours this last week. I asked my W to go to a marriage seminar on Sunday. I tried to tell her without pushing her. Deep down I knew I was pressuring a little because I really wanted her to go but I told her that 'I don't want to put any pressure on you.' I got an email today from my W saying that she was not ready to go. I thought that is how she would feel but I held out hope. In her email she said she felt pressured. She said she did not want to feel like I was going to corner her when I came to the house to talk about the R. She wanted a little small talk and that was it. That is what I will give her in a nice way.

With that email and reading everyones comments on your thread and mine, it is time to detach. I am finally getting that nothing I do is going to make her feel any different. I am just punishing myself by being consumed with trying to find a way to speed things up. As I have been told, it won't work. I believe it now. I pray that I will get some peace about this where I can detach.

The other things we are doing are not working. I am praying this is the best thing to do. Both of our Ws said no more pressure. They know how we feel. We have to respect that or it won't get better and the worst could happen.