Yes, it is hard to detach. Mostly it's because of the constant changes in her emotional attitude.
Since I have been a bit angry the past couple days, she has withdrawn from me. But as my friend says, she probably thinks I hate her.
A few minutes ago she called me to talk about the kids band / color guard membership fees, and whether I wanted to go to the 'family' band dinner next friday. She was coordial, and told me the fees, dates etc. I would say she was in 'mom mode' and somewhat businesslike.
She asked if we wanted to submit separate 'tributes' for our D17's senior yearbook and I said "We're still mom and dad so I think we can come up with something together". She said, yeah, that's true.
She's going to buy the tickets for the dinner and we're going to go together. I took the opportunity to tell her that I appreciate that she does all these things for the family, coordinating stuff and figuring out the fees. At first she didn't reply and I said it a second time and she said "Well thank you" and was silent for a moment.
Then she went on to tell me her schedule for the day, and that she'd come by around 6 pm to 'check on the girls'. She then said "well, have a nice day, bye".
It still hurts me to communicate as 'almost ex husband' because she seems so detached. I am still releasing her so she can be free to be whomever she is wanting to be.
