The Twisted Irony (16)

[girlfromipanema]

You never fail to make me smile. I'm genuinely very, very happy for you. The part you wrote about the old W being back and showing you love and affection and that she's there to stay... pulls at the heartstrings. You are so cool and funny and smart and kind. You deserve a magnificently bright future.

Just make sure to follow up on the MC and everything when you get back to a regular schedule.

xo

[gForce]

The rest of the evening was very nice. W and SD made supper for me, then we ate a brownie cake that SD helped to make. Didn't have enough candles. W gave me a very romantic card, SD gave me one that sang "Who Let the Dogs Out" when you opened it. Then we watched some of the Olympics before going to bed early ;-)

Thanks again for all the BD wishes!

[gForce]

After not hearing from him for over a week, XOM called and emailed W a few times yesterday. Nothing substantial, and W didn't answer or respond. She is handling him well and continues to let me know about these things, but she could tell I was not to happy about cathing a whiff of him again. Tried my best not to let it poison our evening.

Otherwise, all quiet here.

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

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I am glad that the transparency is continuing and she is letting you know about these things. It is better she be honest and it hurt you for a second, then that she hide it and build a lie that hurts you for longer. Do not let it poison your relationship--revel in the fact that she IS recommitting and is demonstrating that through her honesty.

I am thrilled for the two of you!

SMW

[lodo]

Hey g,

You sound good. glad all is working.

lodo

[gForce]

Thanks smw & lodo...

We text back and forth during the day now - "thinking of you", "ILY", etc. We never used to do that. I had always said that texting was an impersonal fad for adolescents. So it is a 180 for me in our R. And you know what? I really enjoy the brief connection, the little reminder that I'm on her mind, or the little lift I get when I see a nice message from her.

D14 is not too happy about the reconciliation, though. In part, I think upset that I won't be closer to NYC. But also because she never cared much for W or SD8 and is disappointed they will still be in our lives. My C agrees that XW has negatively affected D14's feelings in this regard, and thinks it will be a very difficult task to change in the near term.

[mountainman]

gForce, I just spent the last hour reading through your threads and your story. I am in a similar situation and I must say that your progression from emotional mess, to successful DB'ing to strong person ready to move on and looking forward to the future is truly inspiring. That you were able to (so far) successfully turnaround what seemed at many times to be a hopeless situation really is inspiring. I myself and in a stage of comfort where while I want things to work out, I am operating most of the time in an "as if" state of mind. It really is amazing how much better you feel when you have this attitude.

Anyway, I just wanted to respond and say that I hope my sitch turns out like yours for the sake of everyone invovled, especially our 3 kids. But if it doesn't work out, I can see myself looking forward to a new adventure in my life. If you are interested, my thread is at http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1557649
(still trying to figure out how to create a link instead of pasting the whole URL.)
I would appreciate it any advice you could give me and hope you stay in touch!

Thanks.

[girlfromipanema]

g,

I feel stupid replying to your thread because all I can say is how happy I am for you and your wife and how much you deserve to be blissfully happy. I'm like a broken record.

I'm sad D14 isn't too pleased about recent events. I would be sad if my MoTU father wasn't living closer, too. One day she will come around...

xo

[gForce]

jesse - don't be impressed. I started so low, I had nowhere else to go but up. I'll try to catch up to your thread. Not sure how much wisdom I have to share. Most of the time things just happen to me. If I take the credit for when things go well, I have to take the blame when they go sour!

gfi - You can be a broken record on my thread ANY day. Feeling stupid is a requirement for posting here!

There are people looking at the house tomorrow and the next day. I am keeping my fingers crossed. We are talking about buying some land and maybe building a new place. If the house sells, we'll squeeze into The Cottage and save some money while it goes up. Making long term plans together really feels good.

W and I have the next few days alone, but I'm working Saturday :-(
But tonight she is making me dinner. Haven't decided what happens after that. I guess I'll just sit back and let that happen to me, also...

[StrgMarvelousWmn]

WooHoo!! Dinner at the Cottage! What was for dessert?? wink wink nudge nudge??? Cough it, some of us are living vicariously!


Seriously, though, I am so thrilled that things are going so well. Once again, if your W has any contact with the mother ship, PLEASE ask her to ask them to send my H completely home!

SMW