Jeff, just for the record, I don't think you're done at all. Just a gut-level prediction, but I still say she comes back, and you find it in your heart to forgive her.
Jeff, just for the record, I don't think you're done at all. Just a gut-level prediction, but I still say she comes back, and you find it in your heart to forgive her.
Puppy
I've always thought that if you dropped the rope Jeff that your W would eventually come back at some point when she faces reality, wakes up, or whatever it is they do. It's interesting that other people seem to think that to.
How are you doing today, Jeff??? You've been kind of quiet, well you know what I mean. Karen
whatdidido, I really don't know what to do, I'm in limbo between love and hate, thinking of kids and securing my situation before W falls apart.
On several occasions before W left, I let her know if she got rid of OM I would be open to reconciliation. Its always been black and white to me, OM leaves or W does and she knows exactly where I stand on this point.
W is dead set on being on her own, even if she crashes, she is the type of person that is to proud to admit any mistakes. An old girlfriend of W contacted me and said in one of her e-mails that she knows my W thinks she is always right no matter what.
I'm not going to wait forever, for something that may never come.
Karen, I'm doing great, working on house, playing with the kids, the kids and I are sitting down together each night to watch some of the olympics. I'm so busy every night, thats its hard to post, I have been reading everyones stuff, I know you got a new refrigerator and stove, I got a laugh out of your comment about becomming a better cook now that you have something better to work with.
Thanks for checking in on me everyone and remember: Just keep swimming, just keep swimming
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
I understand what you are saying.....but, when someone hits rock bottom like your W will and looks around and sees where she is at......it changes a person. I know people that wait even after a divorce is final....not sure if I could do that.....I know people that have gotten back even after marrying someone else....I don't think I could do that........anything is possible. If it were me, I wouldn't do anything drastic until the D is final. After that, I would move on, unless there were signs otherwise.
whatdidido: anything is possible. If it were me, I wouldn't do anything drastic until the D is final. After that, I would move on, unless there were signs otherwise.
Yes anything is possible, the D should be final by the end of this year. I've already decided not to do anything until D is final. It wouldn't be right, I'm probably going to talk to my parish priest about an annulment of our marriage, becasue the church will still consider me as being married.
W has my head so screwed up, I wouldn't even know what signs to look for. I do think I'll be able to tell is she crashes, everyone in St Louis will know.
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
W called today to let me know she has to work this Friday. I asked her if she wanted to watch the kids before I hire a babysitter for Friday (as required by D settlement). I said no problem; I already have several people who are asking me to let them babysit for me.
W asked me if I ever considered sending the kids to Salem Luther School, she heard they have a great school at a reasonable price, I said no I haven't because we are Catholic!!!!!
She then began to rant and rave(fume/tirade/ramble/rage) about the Catholic church how she has supported them all these years, how she has stood up for the church, how they have done nothing for her, how they are always asking for money and on and on and on.
I just kept saying OK OK OK OK and after awhile I said I had to go and said goodbye. All this from someone who attended church a handful of times last year.
My STBX W is crazy, lost, confused, angry, guilty, and complains all the time - its like walking in a mine field, one wrong move and boom
Just keep swimming, just keep swimming
M45 W41 M10.75 years D9, D6, D6, S5 OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me WAM (Walk Away Mom) 05/31/08 W files for D 07/18/08 Date I'll forgive W for A = never
W asked me if I ever considered sending the kids to Salem Luther School, she heard they have a great school at a reasonable price, I said no I haven't because we are Catholic!!!!!
She then began to rant and rave(fume/tirade/ramble/rage) about the Catholic church how she has supported them all these years, how she has stood up for the church, how they have done nothing for her, how they are always asking for money and on and on and on.
I hate for your W to find out but the Lutheran churches I went to for 30 years or so are probably just as bad about asking for money a lot too! In fact, you know Luther was a Catholic monk originally so I think it is not that different. Probably it depends on the individual church and how much they need money or the pastor/priest and not really whether Catholic or Lutheran or whatever.
Jeff, she does sound a little crazy, but my H does too sometimes. It's hard to imagine they will ever get normal again, but I guess it would be possible, but yeah, after the divorce I won't be waiting anymore either. Karen
I said no I haven't because we are Catholic!!!!!