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[TwinDad]

Pisces,

That book is actually something you would benefit the most from working together through. There are a lot of questions/work sheets etc. It is kind of a piecing thing if you will. Realize he could read through that book and think that some of the other basic needs are more at the top of his list....those are just the typical ones.

A couple words of advice. Once you a very confident and comfortable I would ask him if he would like to work through a book like this. Something along the lines "I am really glad we are back together again, do you think it would be a good idea to get a work book to try to work on our communication and meeting each others needs so we don't go down this path again?"

The other advice would be to keep the past in the past. The old R is gone, stuff that happened in the old R is gone.....so no getting defensive or attacking one another. Actually talk about this ahead of time.

I actually bought this for my W for our anniversary (a couple days before sep....how is that for DBing.....lol). I doubt it will ever be opened up....it is just not her thing (she is kind of an action only type of person....so alot of this is a guessing game for me....lol).

You are doing great!

Note you are already meeting #2 with the hiking etc, I have never seen you but I assume you are attractive (especially since you said you have lost some weight) so there is #3, you have a defnitive plan for #4 that you both like, you speak fondly of your H...thus #5 (I don't think I have ever heard you really b!tch about him) and I hope #1 isn't an issue (note: this really isn't a need your H just sent me money to put that in there....j/k)

Keep up the good work!