I know from my experience I used to push my h and he used to appease everything to make me happy. I even asked him once if I could go traveling on my own for 3 months. He looked sad and said yes but that wasn't what I wanted him to say, I wanted him to say no, I'd miss you too much you can't go. I asked him why he had said yes to that quite outrageous question and he said it was because he wanted me to be happy and couldn't say no to me - he took me at my word and didn't understand my woman-speak. I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes you need to say no, or set clear parameters for us women. It makes us feel loved. I'm not talking about major things just little firm steps.
Let me just say that I HATE this kind of crap. Crazy women
It's always been a pet peeve of mine, those leading questions fishing for an answer. But I'm trying to get better and take it as an indication of what W needs to hear. When I complement her and she tries to blow it off or make some comment, I just keep at it. It's really working.
As for the boundaries, maybe that's what happened two weeks ago. I wanted to be nice, DB and build a friendship, but texting OM in front of me is over the line. Thanks JCJ!
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
