apparanetly, I'm also doing a crappy job as Dad

[jon2911]

I know from my experience I used to push my h and he used to appease everything to make me happy. I even asked him once if I could go traveling on my own for 3 months. He looked sad and said yes but that wasn't what I wanted him to say, I wanted him to say no, I'd miss you too much you can't go. I asked him why he had said yes to that quite outrageous question and he said it was because he wanted me to be happy and couldn't say no to me - he took me at my word and didn't understand my woman-speak. I guess what I'm saying is that sometimes you need to say no, or set clear parameters for us women. It makes us feel loved. I'm not talking about major things just little firm steps.

Wow! What a great suggestion. This applies to me also, I'll post about it in my thread.

Hang in there Dan. Remember to stay away from "you promised to come back in 6 months" comments. Stay away from beating her up or punishing her, even though it feels good.